Are you Listening? Validate Yourself
When someone tells us that what we feel or think is wrong, stupid or unimportant, they invalidate us. If it happens infrequently, we can...
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When Mistakes Feel Shaming
I can still remember the shame I felt at 16 when I didn’t pass my driver’s test the first time. Failing confirmed every negative thought...
Pain is Inevitable; Suffering is Optional
When I was eight years old I called a girl a bad name. She told me I was gonna be sorry, and I believed her. For the next three years I...
Trust Yourself and Heal from Social Anxiety
Social anxiety is the fear of being judged by other people; but it’s not other people’s judgment we fear, it’s our own. If we can handle...
5 Reasons for Mood Swings
Many of us are familiar with the slight mood swings that hormones, stress, or illness can cause. We are all capable of over-reacting...
Do You Hide Your True Feelings?
I’m five years old in this picture and mad as hell. This photo was supposed to be only of me. My Mom dressed me up, curled my hair, and...
Three Ways We Complicate Our Emotions
My granddaughter Kaylie was excited to go shopping on Boxing Day with her Christmas money. I dropped her off at the Mall and when I...
It’s Hard to Have Empathy if You’re Blocking Me!
A record snowfall in Prince George this week stranded drivers and shut down many services for a few days. Trying to get to work in...
Your Self-Talk Defines You
Change the way you talk to yourself and change your life. The primary difference between an insecure person and a confident person is the...
How to Stop Faulty Thinking Habits
Let’s be honest; most experiences are not horrible. They might be unfortunate or, at the very least, unpleasant. If you tell yourself...
Give your Mind a Needed Break
We all need a break from our thoughts from time to time. Sometimes we take breaks through excessive drinking, eating, drugging, gambling,...
How Did You Survive Childhood?
Being a child means being dependent on others and having little control over what happens to you. If your vulnerability is protected, you...
Validation: The Foundation of a Good Relationship
Validation is conveying to someone that you understand how he or she feels, thinks, or behaves. It doesn’t mean you feel the same way or...
Fear: A Normal Response to the Coronavirus
Many people are seeking help for anxiety over the coronavirus. They assume that their fear is an abnormal, unhealthy reaction that gets...
Building Resiliency in times of Adversity
Resiliency seems a perfect topic to resume my blog after a long hiatus. Like you, I have been dealing with the curve balls Covid has...
Adult ADHD: You’re Not Stupid you Know
“You’re not stupid you know.” “You could do well if you just applied yourself.” “Slow down and for goodness sake, stop talking!” I grew...
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