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Hobbies as a Form of Mindfulness
Hobbies play an important role in helping us stay present and in the moment. Before I learned Mindfulness, I thought a hobby’s only...


A Mindfulness Lesson from my Granddaughter
I read my 13-year-old granddaughter Kaylie’s blog the other day. She wrote that she steps back from her emotions and examines them as if...


All Logic, No Heart
When I think of someone who is void of emotion and interested only in facts, I think of a CEO who lays off hundreds of workers because...


Does Judging Increase Stress?
Have you ever noticed that judgmental people are miserable, while those who are accepting of others are content and at peace? A Little...


Does Happiness Elude You?
I am writing this article while vacationing in Mexico. It seems fitting to write about happiness in such a beautiful place. There was a...


Your Ex is Not a Reliable Source of Info About You
This week I’ve had an influx of client’s going through a break-up. It’s heartbreaking because each person turns themselves inside and out...


When Emotions Run Your Life
In Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Marsha Linehan describes each person as having three states of mind; emotion mind, reasonable...


Differentiating Between Emotions & Thoughts
Do you have difficulty separating your thoughts from your emotions? If you do, you may blame others for how you feel and behave. You may...


Are you Listening? Validate Yourself
When someone tells us that what we feel or think is wrong, stupid or unimportant, they invalidate us. If it happens infrequently, we can...


When Mistakes Feel Shaming
I can still remember the shame I felt at 16 when I didn’t pass my driver’s test the first time. Failing confirmed every negative thought...


Pain is Inevitable; Suffering is Optional
When I was eight years old I called a girl a bad name. She told me I was gonna be sorry, and I believed her. For the next three years I...


Trust Yourself and Heal from Social Anxiety
Social anxiety is the fear of being judged by other people; but it’s not other people’s judgment we fear, it’s our own. If we can handle...


5 Reasons for Mood Swings
Many of us are familiar with the slight mood swings that hormones, stress, or illness can cause. We are all capable of over-reacting...


Three Ways We Complicate Our Emotions
My granddaughter Kaylie was excited to go shopping on Boxing Day with her Christmas money. I dropped her off at the Mall and when I...


It’s Hard to Have Empathy if You’re Blocking Me!
A record snowfall in Prince George this week stranded drivers and shut down many services for a few days. Trying to get to work in...


Your Self-Talk Defines You
Change the way you talk to yourself and change your life. The primary difference between an insecure person and a confident person is the...


How to Stop Faulty Thinking Habits
Let’s be honest; most experiences are not horrible. They might be unfortunate or, at the very least, unpleasant. If you tell yourself...


Give your Mind a Needed Break
We all need a break from our thoughts from time to time. Sometimes we take breaks through excessive drinking, eating, drugging, gambling,...


How Did You Survive Childhood?
Being a child means being dependent on others and having little control over what happens to you. If your vulnerability is protected, you...


Validation: The Foundation of a Good Relationship
Validation is conveying to someone that you understand how he or she feels, thinks, or behaves. It doesn’t mean you feel the same way or...
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